Wednesday, October 27, 2010


I know I have been neglecting this blog lately - give me a until next Thursday, after elections and I will be back better - but if anyone is still online and checking this, if you have a moment or two to visit an online mommy and send some prayers, they would be appreciated.

Warning: Anyone who is super sensitive may want to skip this. It is a difficult story to read, especially for twin mommies I would imagine. But good thoughts would be appreciated.

I do not know her "in real life" and do not know her well online either, but we are active on the same online site. And she is going through a very difficult time.

- Bethany :)

Thursday, October 21, 2010

Do they play 'Taps' for vehicles?

This week, we said goodbye to our faithful Focus.

She was a temperamental little thing, but she lasted seven years and 189,987 miles.

She moved me from Marshall to the Twin Cities. She moved Ray and I from our parents' homes to our first apartment home to our first Bemidji residence. And then she moved us to our first house.

She took us on countless backpacking, camping and canoe trips.

She took us on our honeymoons.

She brought Lola home from the hospital.

She hit an unknown number of curbs and squirrels.

She had at least 312 flats.

But, sadly, she died Sunday.

We were coming back home to Bemidji. it was late, maybe 11 p.m. She showed no signs of distress. Ray pulled into our driveway and got her nose into the garage stall.

And she died.

Her engine would have needed a complete rebuild. Which would have cost us three times what she was probably worth.

So we said goodbye.


I should have a picture. But it's funny how seldom you take pictures of your vehicles. I will add one later.


It just so happens we have a spare vehicle (long story).

So I get to go from my too-cramped Focus to a roomy Jeep.

All in all it works out.

But I still can't help but think about how she (the Focus) could have died at any point during that drive Sunday. I mean, she could have stranded us in Leader at 10 p.m. at night.

But she got us home.

- Bethany :)

Wednesday, October 13, 2010

I’m still here!

This has been a crazy fall. And it will just keep on being crazy until at least Election Day. We are all doing well and spending time together, but there is just not as much time available for blogging as there used to be!

Mainly, we have been preparing for the new carpet to come in, hopefully next week sometime, and doing a lot of painting. Well, Ray has been doing a lot of painting. I’ve been working. A lot.

But we also get great doses of Lola time.

She has become such a little ham lately. She likes to make you laugh and loves to smile.

Her new favorite activity is to “drive” Mommy’s car.

And ride the horseys at the mall.

She continues to be Miss Independent and wants to do everything herself – get dressed, change her diaper, make coffee (seriously), set the table, do laundry and feed the cat.

She loves to sit and read books with her parents and is getting to be quite the snuggler.

Dora is still her favorite on TV, but if we’re watching YouTube, it is all about Elmo.

She loves to run and jump and yell and give kisses and hugs.

She also is smart! We basically shop at two places lately: Walmart for food and household stuff and Home Depot for paint. So when we tell her we are going to the store, she always asks, “Fishy store or car store?” Because at Walmart, she can see the fish. And if we go to Home Depot, they have that car cart thing where the kids can sit and play with fake steering wheels. It’s pretty funny. What is not funny is when someone else is using the car cart and Lola has a mini meltdown. But it happens.

Her favorite toys right now are not toys as much as puzzles and blocks. And, of course, her tricycle and all of her balls.

She hates temporary tattoos and silly string. As in despises them. As in major temper tantrums.

She is growing up. I look at her and can’t believe that just last year we were amazed that she was walking so well and now she is running around the housing and climbing on the furniture. Not to mention jumping off the furniture.

We have entire conversations now. And I get real hugs and she tells me, “I love you Mommy.”

It’s awesome.
- Bethany :)

Monday, October 4, 2010

So how was YOUR weekend?!

“First off, Lola is fine, so don’t panic.”

This was how Ray greeted me when he called me Saturday. I was working. He was (supposedly) home with Lola.

We had decided – smartly, I think – to paint the master bedroom this weekend. We (finally) ordered the carpet for the basement and included new carpet for two of the bedrooms upstairs. (The third “extra” bedroom, the office, has old wood floors that we haven’t decided what to do with yet.) And it would probably make more sense to paint while the carpet that is in there can be ruined and wrecked.

So long story short, Ray had taken Lola to home Depot to buy paint. Afterward, they stopped for lunch. And he let her sit in a booster seat. Lola wiggled around and ended up falling, hitting her head on the table and then the floor. Poor thing.

She ended up with a rather impressive blue bump on her forehead.

Poor thing. And this time I mean Ray. He beat himself up about it all day Saturday.

She was fine – just a little shook up.

So later that afternoon I decided to give Ray a little break (and let him paint!). A friend of mine and I took Lola to see a visiting show. It was sponsored by the local early childhood education people. And I really thought Lola would enjoy it.


We lasted 2 minutes.

I didn’t realize that it was more than just a sing-along thing. I should have researched better… But the show features full-sized characters. As soon as the first friend – presented in a bear costume - walked out and started high-fiving and dancing, Lola had a M.E.L.T.D.O.W.N. She jumped into my chest and screamed to get out of there. We left. Quickly.

And apparently it traumatized her. Ever since, she keeps saying, “No scary bear, Mommy. OK? No scary bear.”

So … any guesses as to how Halloween might go?!

- Bethany :)