Monday, November 29, 2010

Bedtime battles

“I miss the crib.”

These were Ray’s words today when he called me during Lola’s naptime (he is home today).

Lola has a habit: being very, very, very quiet during bedtime – but avoiding actually going to sleep.

We noticed things were changing a few weeks ago. We used to put her in bed and, bang, she was asleep. Then, we noticed that she would quietly get out of bed, get a toy and then get back into bed and go to sleep.

Now? Well, she goes and gets a baby doll, the baby doll’s stroller, the tea set and a few puzzles. Occasionally, she gets a few books or her little singing dog toy. She might even decide to open the toy box and take everything out. You just never know.

One day I found that she went into her closet (which I apparently forgot to close), opened her diaper rash cream and smeared it all over the (new!) carpet.

Another time, she opened her ponytail bands container and dumped them all out. (I know this does not sound like a big deal, but picture the clear – invisible – itty bitty rubber bands used in braces. They are like that. Hundreds and hundreds of barely colored bands. It took me days to find them all. And I am still finding new ones.)

But the thing is, she is being quiet. So quiet you can't even hear her making noise. I did find that one of the advantages of our older homes i the the doors are all 2 inches above the floor - so if I lay down flat and per under the door I can see Lola, in bed, quietly playing or (supposedly) trying to go to bed.

Anyhow, things have been less than stellar at bedtime. And Ray’s patience whas quickly been thinning. So last night, after hearing her playing quietly for more than an hour after we had put her to bed, he took the baby doll and stroller away – her most favorite toys. And she cried. But she went to sleep.

He reported, though, today, that at naptime he had to take away the doll, the stroller, the baby bottle, the tea set and a few random stuffed animals.

I think he is considering throwing all of her toys into the closet and locking the doors at bedtimes.

Fun times. Sigh.

The nice thing about it all, though, is that it works in the morning time too. She lets us sleep! Today, we woke up late-ish and Ray went to check on Lola, finding her playing quietly on her bedroom floor. Who knows how long she was up?!


We had a nice Thanksgiving, albeit a quiet one. I worked that day and Saturday, so we had a strange combination of days off. But it worked out. Ray prepared a fabulous dinner for the three of us – Lola loved it (especially the turkey skin) – and then we spent Friday shopping and buying and decorating our Christmas tree.


A first: Yesterday, we went grocery shopping and I could kind of hear Lola very softly signing her ABCs. She does this quite a bit sometimes, just softly trying to see if she can remember the words to certain songs or something.

I didn’t think anything of it until I realized that I was mentally singing along with her – and she hadn’t missed a single letter.

Sure enough, she sang them a few more times and did them completely (if you excuse “double” for W and “egg” for X).

So proud.

(And that goes for Lola, too. She just beamed, knowing she had done it.)

- Bethany :)

Thursday, November 18, 2010

* smile *

Well, we’re going to have an extra-special Thanksgiving this year.

Lola is going to be a big sister.

We’ve known for a little while now. I am not quite out of the first trimester, but the second trimester is right around the corner. I am due in mid-June (which means I am mentally preparing myself for a 4th of July baby, based on past performance).

We are excited and anxious and scared and thrilled and very happy.

And also sick and tired and crabby – but that is mostly just me enduring a rather difficult first trimester. But it should be over soon. I hope.

I had my first appointment last week, but I did not get to hear a heartbeat or anything – it was just too early – but Dr. said all was good and healthy, so I am being optimistic that all is well. Considering the never-ending nausea this time around, I am not very worried.

So that is that. I didn’t know when – or how – to announce, but I felt like it was just time to do so. Maybe I am just in a happy mood due to the short work week. Or yesterday’s snowstorm. Either way, I just wanted to share.

Have a great Thanksgiving!
- Bethany :)

Tuesday, November 16, 2010

You know you're an English geek when...

... you find yourself playing word games with your child's name.

I realized something today, thanks to a mistype in a text to my husband. My daughter's name - Lola - is one character off from the commonly used texting/e-mail phrase LOL. It made me smile.

Which made me think of "Mad About You," an old favorite sitcom. When the couple, Jaime and Paul, have a daughter, they struggle with giving her a name. And in that episode Jaime's mother is always offering advice in the terms of acronyms. I can't now remember what they were, but they were about remembering bottles and other baby supplies and such. Anyhow, she tells Jaime at one point that "mothers always bring extra love" and Jaime thinks it is supposed to be an acronym (it wasn't), but realized it spelled, Mabel. And that is what they named their daughter.

A long story, I know, to basically point out that Lola could be an acronym for a whole bunch of sayings, so I've been playing with some day.

It's been a fun game so far this morning.
- Bethany :)

Monday, November 15, 2010

fun, messy days

No one was really thrilled with the idea of leaving the house on Sunday, we we all stayed in and Lola and I marked my latest birthday with a lot of messes.

I try not to be super obsessive about having a clean house, but, yeah, it certainly does (usually) factor into what we do at home. But on Sunday, I decided my birthday present for myself was for Lola to just have a day to do whatever sounded fun at the time.

So I took out the (washable) markers, which does not happen too often (just always seems so much safer to use crayons). But figured a cold, wet day was as good as any other to let her color all over some paper, the table and, yes, even herself.

She then decided to make just one more pretty picture, but did so in a new way.

(Yes, I'm thinking finger paints might be a good idea for Christmas...)


After coloring for a bit, Lola was still in a crafty kind of mood. So we decided to find some playdo. The problem was, though, that we don't have any. So we had to make our own, which ended up being half the fun anyways.

She and I played with the playdo for a couple of hours. First in little clumps. Then we took out the cookie cutters.


While lots of you "southerners" got inches and inches (if not a foot of snow), we did get a very light dusting, but, mostly, it all missed us.

It certainly wasn't Lola's first snowfall, but it was as if she was experiencing it for the first time all over again. She didn't know what to think.

My parents were in town for the weekend, so she went outside with her daddy, grandpa and her favorite little doggy, Roma.

Lola was NOT impressed with the sled. But she was intrigued by the snow.

Whether she still loves it six months from now remains to be seen...
- Bethany :)

Friday, November 12, 2010

Lola sings the alphabet

This would be so much better on video, but I'm lazy...

Capital letters mean she is confident and loud. Lower case not so much. The rest is self-explanatory.


She loves the letter Y. Always belts that one out...

Have a good weekend.
- Bethany :)

Monday, November 8, 2010


LOVE this picture. Pure joy.

And I needed a smile today: Less than one month after the Focus left us, Ray's Ranger has decided it doesn't want to live without its good pal. The clutch went out on Friday so we, again, are saying goodbye to another vehicle.


But because I really don't want to think about that right now, I am focusing on Lola, who had a wonderful weekend "helping" Ray rake up the leaves in the backyard.

I helped a little (very little). At the end, we got lazy and decided to use the wagon to transport leaves to the compost pile. Lola enjoyed this aspect, too, because she got lots of rides!

And playtime!

It was just one of those super fun afternoons. (Well, not so much for Ray - I don't think he loved raking as much as Lola loved playing in the leaf piles...)

Lola, of course, loved jumping into the leaves. But Lola being Lola, she couldn't stand being dirty. So after each jump she had to stop and pick all of the leaves off her clothes.

It was pretty adorable.

So cute.

- Bethany :)

Tuesday, November 2, 2010

Lola's first Halloween

I was not even really going to push Halloween this year. Lola, our shy and introverted little girl, is not ready for trick-or-treating or Halloween parties.

So I figured the Wesleys would do what the Wesleys have always done: ignore Halloween completely.

Sure, in the past, we have maybe carved a pumpkin and put Lola in a T-shirt or in Halloween orange. But we've avoided the infant costumes in the past.

But about two or three months ago, I took Lola to the mall. And we walked into Herberger's and Lola shrieked, pointing at a rack of Halloween costumes.

"Mommy! Bug! Mommy! Bug!"

She had spotted a ladybug outfit.

This is the same 2-year-old who goes to bed every night with a cute ladybug light-up night light toy and a plush ladybug animal.

Ladybugs are it. (This year anyway.)

So, she got a ladybug outfit.

And it has been hanging in her closet for a month or so now.

And Sunday ... she finally got to put it on.

Lola danced. She was so happy.

Then I brought her to the mirror, where she noticed for the first time that the hood on her costume had little bug ears, too.

Of course, we still had to get out of the house. Lola would not have handled trick-or-treaters very well. So we went to my dad's for the evening. He lives in the country, so his house is more or less ignored on Halloween, too. It worked well.

All in all, it was a pleasant Halloween.


Ray did end up carving one of the two remaining biggee pumpkins. This was the largest - 126 pounds. It was thicker than he was prepared for, about 4-5 inches thick. I think he only broke one knife carving it, though. Success.


Lola also got to dress up a bit the night before Halloween. She wore her new favorite jammies (because they come with a tutu, of course).

But something was missing...

Yep, shiny sparkly shoes.

She is so her mother's daughter.

Happy Election Day.
- Bethany :)